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I did this stamp for two reasons... hold on, I don't think it's appropriate of me to talk about this with this stupid monospace gimmick going on.


That's better.

Anyway, here's why I wanted to make and upload this stamp. First of all, this is something I truly believe is important. I'll explain in reason number two.

Reason number two is that I'm very critical of pornography and... let's say "alternate" views on premarital sex. People assume, probably with reason, that it's because I'm closed-minded. They also assume it's because I was repressed or abused as a child, which isn't true.

The real reason why is because sex is a very special and very powerful thing. It's the ultimate form of intimacy. But people don't value it.

The cause I'm standing for is not repressing one's sexual drives, nor is it oppression or censorship of peoples' expression of sexuality. None of that.

You see, people have a choice. They can either use sex to express their love for their chosen partner... or sex can be a toy that they bring out to play with every once in a while. And the reason I'm so opinionated is that people usually pick the second option.

I get very angry when people draw porn, especially of themselves and/or their loved ones, and then instead of remaining faithful to their partner by sharing it exclusively with them, they post it up on the Internet for everyone to see.

Recently I found an artist on FurAffinity who regularly draws porn of her furry and her boyfriend's furry and not only puts it on FurAffinity for everyone to use as masturbation material but does it for anyone who commissions it. She draws herself having sex with people other than her boyfriend just because they paid her to.
Is he supposed to believe that the sex she gives him is special? How could it be if she gives it to everyone?

But the worst part of it all is when people get a girlfriend, they get a boyfriend, and use them for sex. There's no love. There's no intimacy. They're just masturbation aids.

Fuck that.

With this stamp, I am declaring my allegiance. I am crying out that I choose to love my mate. Sex will always be secondary to my feelings for them.

Use this stamp if you feel the same way I do, and you want to see people using sex to express their love instead of just getting off.

You are free to comment.
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:icongengarpunk95:
GengarPunk95 Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
grow up
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Thirteen4one Featured By Owner Dec 17, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Whatever anyone below says, I agree with you.
Premarital sex is like taking a bite out of something at the grocery store and either putting it back or buying it. It can go either way, and that's not good. It shows lack of commitment, honor, and appreciation that somebody exposed themselves like that. It should be valued more than it is.
And getting married purely for sex is just ridiculous, that marriage has formed a foundation on lust and simply cannot stand. And carting one's self away like candy to others is no better, even worse when married. Again, lack of commitment. But it's worse when married because you are taking the love your spouse feels for you for granted.
Sex is a way to express intimacy and even create life, it should be treated with greater respect than it has received in recent times. It seems few agree with the statement that one should not have sex before marriage, that is saddening. Everyone seems too eager to lose their virginity like it's baby teeth, but it's not. I plan to lose my virginity only to the woman I love most on this Earth, it will mean so much more than losing it to a one-night stand. And if she doesn't want sex, I won't force her. Sex is not the only form of love.
In conclusion, premarital sex is wild and unpredictable and should not be encouraged.

I'm happy to have wrote that. :D It got my point across and helped me practice for the essay portion on my HiSET exam. I'll be using the stamp on my page if you don't mind, friend. :) Have a wonderful day.
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axris Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2016  Student Artist
blech, i'm panromantic/asexual and even i disagree with you. 

"sex is the ultimate form of intimacy" get ready for the final boss of The Dating Game, S.E.X.!! Hope you have the Condom-Covered Dildo +3 of Sexy Bondage, or you're going to be fucked in the ass! *ba dum tss* *crickets*

if i want to express love to someone i'm romantically attracted to, i'll take them to a nice dinner. i'll be their shoulder to cry on after a bad day. i'll be the one to punch down anyone who shittalks them. Sex itself only really has a "purpose" for reproduction or pleasure, and honestly? if it feels good, do it as much as possible. Like, talk it out with your lover if it's ok to see other people, but if they say yes, then go for it. Casual sex isn't that bad. 

"I get very angry when people draw porn" wow, whingefest. I don't have a lover - does that mean I can't draw porn of my OCs and provide it for everybody else?

FurAffinity artworks usually go up for $50 or more per drawing. fuck, i'd start drawing and selling furry porn if i was able to draw furries. 

But all in all, the major argument you present is, "IT'S NOT LUV!!! IT'S JUST SEX!!!".

Sex is not the only way, nor the most major way, to show that you love someone. 
There is nothing wrong with casual sex. You say "Sex is always secondary to my feelings for my loved one" and then go on a rant about how it's the Ultimate Form Of Intimacy Hope You Have The Morning After Pill Shield +2. It seems extremely hypocritical to me.
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ShinanaEvangelian Featured By Owner Jun 1, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
People take sex for granted as just something frivolous to 'make them feel good' which isn't true. It not only should be a special thing, but people ought to e careful as well. There are often dangers of sex such as pregnancy and STDs which they seem to like to take the risk.

Anyway, I love this stamp and your 2 cents worth!Hosoya  Michael Jackson Bow Icon 
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axris Featured By Owner Jul 11, 2016  Student Artist
making it a special thing is boring and the product of an old-fashioned way of thinking tbh, this coming from someone who doesn't even feel sexual attraction. 

you should be open to your partner if you have any stds, obviously, but protection and abortions if you can't handle the pregnancy exist and protection itself generally doesn't cost much. 

and there's always the option of fucking the same sex, fucking someone orally, fucking someone anally, fisting, bdsm, fingering, strap-ons, sex toys, etc etc. it's not all about genital-to-genital contact.
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ShinanaEvangelian Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
You and I have too very different views. If you don't agree with this, you can easily look up what best suits your interests.

Besides I don't support abortion unless the valid reason is it can potentially kill the woman carrying the baby and/or the baby. It shouldn't be used for any other reason like as an alternate birth control.
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axris Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2016  Student Artist
or i can come across it while browsing and put in a valid opinion on the topic.

it costs at least $800 to have a safe and legal abortion, and most people with that kind of disposable income are also disgustingly pro-life. it's almost never as an alternate form of birth control aside from the unsafe, illegal coat-hanger abortions.

i'm not a woman. having a baby or being pregnant would put severe stress on my mental state to the point where i'd commit suicide. is that a situation that would call for an abortion?
trans men and nonbinary individuals with vaginas can also get pregnant and be extremely dysphoric over it (birth control and condoms can break); would they be entitled to an abortion?

you can't limit who gets the abortion. because like it or not, people will do it legally or illegally. at the very least, let them have a safe procedure.
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axris Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2016  Student Artist
The moment the sperm enters the egg, it has a soul. 
Useless sentimentality - and I'm the childish one? 

The child will potentially harm me, its parent (i'm not a woman). The emotional strain of:
-being raped, as i would never have sex with anyone, let alone someone with a penis, out of my free will (notice how abstinence won't fucking help me if i get raped, you moron?)
-suffering severe gender dysphoria that i will inevitably suffer as a result of the baby
-the absolute utter phobia i have of giving birth, to the point where i'll probably have multiple panic attacks (and i self-harm during those panic attacks)
-my already-existing mental illnesses (anxiety and depression)
will lead to me killing myself should i be pregnant.

You're being pretty cissexist at the moment; there are women out there with penises, and not everybody who is capable of becoming pregnant is going to be a mother. 

i'm pro-choice, not pro-abortion. If you want the baby, keep it. If you don't want the baby, abort it. 

My reply goes here because you blocked me, but I still have points to make to correct your really shitty judgements of me.
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ShinanaEvangelian Featured By Owner Edited Jul 19, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
The moment the sperm enters the egg, it has a soul. It would be murder to abort it for no reason other than it could potentially harm the baby and/or mother, and the person making a wrong call is a monster. Why should the child's life be a decision and not let it just continue just because "they don't want it" or "I'll kill myself"? Sounds to me if you're not mentally stable to handle a baby, than you shouldn't be having sex with a guy, period.

If it's safe to give birth to the child without any harm towards the mother and child, then abortion is not necessary. It's called put the child up for adoption after you've given birth to it. If you don't want to risk having a baby at all. Then it's called abstinence.

Obviously you're too young to be understanding this fully. Know where I stand. So I'm done taking you seriously because it's obvious that you are pro-abortion from anything to "The baby is an inconvenience" to "I'm gonna f*cking kill myself cuz I'm too young to take care of a baby."
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Section79 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2016
This is something I really wish our modern western society could understand, because I honestly believe that our country, among others, has put way too emphasis and importance on sex as a whole. And this I feel is huge problem for a number of reasons.

Contrary to what right-wing conservatives and religious extremists will tell you, sex is not wrong nor is it detrimental to those who have had it. It can do many great things and be beneficial to both genders. I'm a supporter of having sex education taught in all schools across the United States so that teenagers who are mature and responsible enough to learn it can use it properly. However, saying that sex is the most important thing in the world is like saying football is the best sport in the world. That to me is a very poor analogy. There are better and more important things in the world than sex and football. There's also this stereotype that all men want sex all the time and that's all that they want. They don't care about love or relationships, they just want sex and nothing else. There's also another stereotype that women don't want sex at all, they just want to get married. Both stereotype are untrue in their own right, but the first one I feel is the worst of them all.

Some people tend to think that if a man doesn't want sex at any given time, no matter how much sex he's gotten in the past, there's something wrong with him, or worse, that he's gay. Homophobia is a real problem, and a lot of men feel like they need to wear their heterosexuality on the sleeves to prove to themselves, their friends or society as a whole that they are not gay. They feel as if being gay means being unmanly, and that is simply not true. Masculine gay men exist, you just need to look hard enough and you'll find them.

But back to my main point, the concept of losing one's virginity is just so overrated in my view, and think as you get older and mature, you realize it's not the most important goal in existence. I'm 19 years old and don't feel any shame for being a virgin, I just want to enjoy life's greatest pleasures before I die. I don't want people to think I'm anti-sex, but more pro-romance, meaning I'm more interested in love than in simply lust. Sex may be reality, but love is a greater reality. A reality that brings people together whether they be gay, straight, bi, trans, cis, pan, or ace. A reality that says love will be greater than lust.
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C-rimson-Battlefield Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
How about this.

Love is great

Lust is good.

And people are crazy.
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Khair-Udin Featured By Owner Jul 18, 2015  Student Photographer
amazing! Finally someone said this. :3
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MenollySagittaria Featured By Owner Feb 22, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm an aromantic graysexual, and even I agree with you. 

I kind of wish the term "friends with benefits" actually meant that the people were at least *friends*- i.e., genuinely cared about each other if not madly in love with each other. That's how it should work . . .
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Mewcakes-BFDI Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2015

Thin privilege is being able to see a baseball game.

I went to a game over the weekend - the seats were clearly designed for an unrealistic maximum weight. The only way I could fit was to sit at the edge of the seat and sort of slide back, forcing my hips underneath the armrests. It was extremely uncomfortable. On one side of me was a little kid who didn’t seem bothered. On the other side was a girl who was NOT pleased that I was taking up a small portion of *her* seat and loudly discussing how sweaty I was (it was 85+ degrees) with her friends. One of them sympathized that it must be gross, having me pressed up against her.

I got up to get some food (omg a fat person eating alert!) and when I came back, I discovered that one of the vendors had given the girl a piece of cardboard to put in between herself and the armrest. With this cardboard in place, I discovered that I could not fit in the seat. It was impossible. I asked her to remove the cardboard. She said no. I got a security guard. He looked at the situation and said he couldn’t do anything, the cardboard was on her side of the seat only, so she was entitled to have it there if she wished.

I left in tears.

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ComixThreeSevens Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
You made a suicidal guy feel a lot better today.
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Aminellelia Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconbravoplz: You're absolutely correct. Sex should be valued and it's not a special thing if they don't wait for it until after marriage! It's like opening a gift before it's given to you.
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GengarPunk95 Featured By Owner Jan 27, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
BlastphamousHD Emoticon #19 


No
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SonicBoom-zers Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2016  Hobbyist Artisan Crafter
the hell?

...







hug 
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PrettyKitty-13 Featured By Owner Jan 26, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Amen!
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MarvelscaleMilotic Featured By Owner Nov 21, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well, I think everybody is free to have sex with whatever person they want, as long as they both want it. I won't judge others for having casual sex.

Having said that, I would NEVER have casual sex myself. I have an amazing girlfriend and really don't want to sleep with others. But before I got her and was single, I never wanted casual sex. When I was single, all I wanted was having a nice girlfriend to have a monogamous relationship with. I don't need porn, I don't need prostitutes or casual hookups, I just need my girlfriend for all my sexual needs.
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GiantPurpleCat Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2014  Hobbyist Filmographer
Oh my gosh, I love you so much. :iconitsbeautifulplz:

Everything you said is so true. I just wish everyone understood the same concept. It's such a shame that people don't. :T
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dolunaylupus Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
:iconthisplz:
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Marzipanzers Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
thank you! :salute:
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StockingStreams Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014
This stamp is love, this stamp is life <3
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:iconkegger98:
Kegger98 Featured By Owner Feb 14, 2014
Right, because we all know sex is unimportant in a relationship.
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:iconcritic-007:
Critic-007 Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2014
He's saying it inst the only thing to it.
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:iconkegger98:
Kegger98 Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2014
Buts it's a big part.
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Critic-007 Featured By Owner Sep 23, 2014
Will you still care when your old and grey? Will you care when one is unable to preform? Will it be the biggest memory of your late partner?
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Kegger98 Featured By Owner Sep 23, 2014
If to people aren't comfortable having sex together, none of that would happen.
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Critic-007 Featured By Owner Sep 24, 2014
So if two people don't want to have sex they wouldn't have sex? You have proved nothing. 
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:iconkegger98:
Kegger98 Featured By Owner Sep 24, 2014
If they don't want sex that's another story.
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DarkBonesHT Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
AGREED. Porn is ruining my fandom.
This generation is screwed. They only use sex as a toy and use it to look "cool".
I agree with you pal! 8 bit SMW - Small Mario 
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Hollyleaf-Sam Featured By Owner Nov 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
The world would be a better place if everyone felt the same way as you. I honor you! I salute you! 
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VivianeLeFay Featured By Owner Oct 19, 2013
Amen to that! I really couldn't agree more!
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SilentRisingSun Featured By Owner Dec 31, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
There need to be more stamps like this.
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Hanachino-Hime Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2012
"The real reason why is because sex is a very special and very powerful thing. It's the ultimate form of intimacy. But people don't value it."

I have to disagree with that. The ultimate form of intimacy...would be feeling completely connected and at ease when being with some particular person and longing for them when they're not present (I'm not good at explaining). You can have sex with almost anyone. You cannot have a really beautiful and special bond with just anyone. I do not think many people are in this kind of relationship.

Not every couple even likes sex. :P
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jarleynygmobblepot Featured By Owner Jun 25, 2012  Professional Writer
i couldn't agree more
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puddin-pie Featured By Owner May 26, 2012
for me, yes, alot has to do with well, i was severely raped for years, but also, before then even, well.. in order to be "turned on" i need to be in love and know that person loves me back and that we're in a serious relationship :heart: before we have sex.

...but with girls..idk. I'm exploring myself. i'd like again, a relationship, or a close bond maybe. idk...still young.
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Dexter96 Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2012
After having my longest-running fandom permanently scarred by stumbling across porn of it, I'm very wary of porn on the internet.
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Crikenghost Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2012  Student Traditional Artist
true that
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xXxSp4rtyxXx Featured By Owner Sep 2, 2011  Student General Artist
Love and Lust at the same time..... work's for me.
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FatalSyndrome Featured By Owner May 5, 2011  Professional Digital Artist
I agree with this notion. I wish some of the people I knew would too. >__>
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Waffle-Wizard Featured By Owner May 6, 2011
I think it's a very healthy way of thinking, plain and simple.
You ever watch sitcoms? There was an episode of Seinfeld where Jerry tries to pursue a casual relationship with a girl and sets up a long list of rules in order to make it simpler. This is based on a true story, by the way. It didn't work, and it made for a hilarious episode.

Thanks for the fave BTW :hug:
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FatalSyndrome Featured By Owner May 9, 2011  Professional Digital Artist
I love sitcoms, especially Seinfeld, and I haven't seen that episode, no (there's so many!). I should look into it. XD

No problem. :3
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Waffle-Wizard Featured By Owner May 9, 2011
I think the episodes get funnier when you realize that most of them are based on a true story as experienced by the writers XD
I don't wanna be a pirate!

No soup for you! *shot*
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ayame18 Featured By Owner May 1, 2011  Student Digital Artist
I completely with everything here. :clap:
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Waffle-Wizard Featured By Owner May 2, 2011
So glad you. Thanks for faving :hug:
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ayame18 Featured By Owner May 2, 2011  Student Digital Artist
You're welcome. :)
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Da-Lizzard Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2011  Hobbyist General Artist
I love you for this :3.
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Waffle-Wizard Featured By Owner Apr 30, 2011
heee, awwwww. I love you too :hug:
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