Hey, this is my first deviation! Lucky me!
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I did this stamp for two reasons... hold on, I don't think it's appropriate of me to talk about this with this stupid monospace gimmick going on.
Anyway, here's why I wanted to make and upload this stamp. First of all, this is something I truly believe is important. I'll explain in reason number two.
Reason number two is that I'm very critical of pornography and... let's say "alternate" views on premarital sex. People assume, probably with reason, that it's because I'm closed-minded. They also assume it's because I was repressed or abused as a child, which isn't true.
The real reason why is because sex is a very special and very powerful thing. It's the ultimate form of intimacy. But people don't value it.
The cause I'm standing for is not repressing one's sexual drives, nor is it oppression or censorship of peoples' expression of sexuality. None of that.
You see, people have a choice. They can either use sex to express their love for their chosen partner... or sex can be a toy that they bring out to play with every once in a while. And the reason I'm so opinionated is that people usually pick the second option.
I get very angry when people draw porn, especially of themselves and/or their loved ones, and then instead of remaining faithful to their partner by sharing it exclusively with them, they post it up on the Internet for everyone to see.
Recently I found an artist on FurAffinity who regularly draws porn of her furry and her boyfriend's furry and not only puts it on FurAffinity for everyone to use as masturbation material but does it for anyone who commissions it. She draws herself having sex with people other than her boyfriend just because they paid her to.
Is he supposed to believe that the sex she gives him is special? How could it be if she gives it to everyone?
But the worst part of it all is when people get a girlfriend, they get a boyfriend, and use them for sex. There's no love. There's no intimacy. They're just masturbation aids.
With this stamp, I am declaring my allegiance. I am crying out that I choose to love my mate. Sex will always be secondary to my feelings for them.
Use this stamp if you feel the same way I do, and you want to see people using sex to express their love instead of just getting off.
You are free to comment.
Premarital sex is like taking a bite out of something at the grocery store and either putting it back or buying it. It can go either way, and that's not good. It shows lack of commitment, honor, and appreciation that somebody exposed themselves like that. It should be valued more than it is.
And getting married purely for sex is just ridiculous, that marriage has formed a foundation on lust and simply cannot stand. And carting one's self away like candy to others is no better, even worse when married. Again, lack of commitment. But it's worse when married because you are taking the love your spouse feels for you for granted.
Sex is a way to express intimacy and even create life, it should be treated with greater respect than it has received in recent times. It seems few agree with the statement that one should not have sex before marriage, that is saddening. Everyone seems too eager to lose their virginity like it's baby teeth, but it's not. I plan to lose my virginity only to the woman I love most on this Earth, it will mean so much more than losing it to a one-night stand. And if she doesn't want sex, I won't force her. Sex is not the only form of love.
In conclusion, premarital sex is wild and unpredictable and should not be encouraged.
I'm happy to have wrote that. It got my point across and helped me practice for the essay portion on my HiSET exam. I'll be using the stamp on my page if you don't mind, friend. Have a wonderful day.
"sex is the ultimate form of intimacy" get ready for the final boss of The Dating Game, S.E.X.!! Hope you have the Condom-Covered Dildo +3 of Sexy Bondage, or you're going to be fucked in the ass! *ba dum tss* *crickets*
if i want to express love to someone i'm romantically attracted to, i'll take them to a nice dinner. i'll be their shoulder to cry on after a bad day. i'll be the one to punch down anyone who shittalks them. Sex itself only really has a "purpose" for reproduction or pleasure, and honestly? if it feels good, do it as much as possible. Like, talk it out with your lover if it's ok to see other people, but if they say yes, then go for it. Casual sex isn't that bad.
"I get very angry when people draw porn" wow, whingefest. I don't have a lover - does that mean I can't draw porn of my OCs and provide it for everybody else?
FurAffinity artworks usually go up for $50 or more per drawing. fuck, i'd start drawing and selling furry porn if i was able to draw furries.
But all in all, the major argument you present is, "IT'S NOT LUV!!! IT'S JUST SEX!!!".
Sex is not the only way, nor the most major way, to show that you love someone.
There is nothing wrong with casual sex. You say "Sex is always secondary to my feelings for my loved one" and then go on a rant about how it's the Ultimate Form Of Intimacy Hope You Have The Morning After Pill Shield +2. It seems extremely hypocritical to me.
Anyway, I love this stamp and your 2 cents worth!
you should be open to your partner if you have any stds, obviously, but protection and abortions if you can't handle the pregnancy exist and protection itself generally doesn't cost much.
and there's always the option of fucking the same sex, fucking someone orally, fucking someone anally, fisting, bdsm, fingering, strap-ons, sex toys, etc etc. it's not all about genital-to-genital contact.
Besides I don't support abortion unless the valid reason is it can potentially kill the woman carrying the baby and/or the baby. It shouldn't be used for any other reason like as an alternate birth control.
it costs at least $800 to have a safe and legal abortion, and most people with that kind of disposable income are also disgustingly pro-life. it's almost never as an alternate form of birth control aside from the unsafe, illegal coat-hanger abortions.
i'm not a woman. having a baby or being pregnant would put severe stress on my mental state to the point where i'd commit suicide. is that a situation that would call for an abortion?
trans men and nonbinary individuals with vaginas can also get pregnant and be extremely dysphoric over it (birth control and condoms can break); would they be entitled to an abortion?
you can't limit who gets the abortion. because like it or not, people will do it legally or illegally. at the very least, let them have a safe procedure.
Useless sentimentality - and I'm the childish one?
The child will potentially harm me, its parent (i'm not a woman). The emotional strain of:
-being raped, as i would never have sex with anyone, let alone someone with a penis, out of my free will (notice how abstinence won't fucking help me if i get raped, you moron?)
-suffering severe gender dysphoria that i will inevitably suffer as a result of the baby
-the absolute utter phobia i have of giving birth, to the point where i'll probably have multiple panic attacks (and i self-harm during those panic attacks)
-my already-existing mental illnesses (anxiety and depression)
will lead to me killing myself should i be pregnant.
You're being pretty cissexist at the moment; there are women out there with penises, and not everybody who is capable of becoming pregnant is going to be a mother.
i'm pro-choice, not pro-abortion. If you want the baby, keep it. If you don't want the baby, abort it.
My reply goes here because you blocked me, but I still have points to make to correct your really shitty judgements of me.
If it's safe to give birth to the child without any harm towards the mother and child, then abortion is not necessary. It's called put the child up for adoption after you've given birth to it. If you don't want to risk having a baby at all. Then it's called abstinence.
Obviously you're too young to be understanding this fully. Know where I stand. So I'm done taking you seriously because it's obvious that you are pro-abortion from anything to "The baby is an inconvenience" to "I'm gonna f*cking kill myself cuz I'm too young to take care of a baby."
Contrary to what right-wing conservatives and religious extremists will tell you, sex is not wrong nor is it detrimental to those who have had it. It can do many great things and be beneficial to both genders. I'm a supporter of having sex education taught in all schools across the United States so that teenagers who are mature and responsible enough to learn it can use it properly. However, saying that sex is the most important thing in the world is like saying football is the best sport in the world. That to me is a very poor analogy. There are better and more important things in the world than sex and football. There's also this stereotype that all men want sex all the time and that's all that they want. They don't care about love or relationships, they just want sex and nothing else. There's also another stereotype that women don't want sex at all, they just want to get married. Both stereotype are untrue in their own right, but the first one I feel is the worst of them all.
Some people tend to think that if a man doesn't want sex at any given time, no matter how much sex he's gotten in the past, there's something wrong with him, or worse, that he's gay. Homophobia is a real problem, and a lot of men feel like they need to wear their heterosexuality on the sleeves to prove to themselves, their friends or society as a whole that they are not gay. They feel as if being gay means being unmanly, and that is simply not true. Masculine gay men exist, you just need to look hard enough and you'll find them.
But back to my main point, the concept of losing one's virginity is just so overrated in my view, and think as you get older and mature, you realize it's not the most important goal in existence. I'm 19 years old and don't feel any shame for being a virgin, I just want to enjoy life's greatest pleasures before I die. I don't want people to think I'm anti-sex, but more pro-romance, meaning I'm more interested in love than in simply lust. Sex may be reality, but love is a greater reality. A reality that brings people together whether they be gay, straight, bi, trans, cis, pan, or ace. A reality that says love will be greater than lust.
Love is great
Lust is good.
And people are crazy.
I kind of wish the term "friends with benefits" actually meant that the people were at least *friends*- i.e., genuinely cared about each other if not madly in love with each other. That's how it should work . . .
Thin privilege is being able to see a baseball game.
I went to a game over the weekend - the seats were clearly designed for an unrealistic maximum weight. The only way I could fit was to sit at the edge of the seat and sort of slide back, forcing my hips underneath the armrests. It was extremely uncomfortable. On one side of me was a little kid who didn’t seem bothered. On the other side was a girl who was NOT pleased that I was taking up a small portion of *her* seat and loudly discussing how sweaty I was (it was 85+ degrees) with her friends. One of them sympathized that it must be gross, having me pressed up against her.
I got up to get some food (omg a fat person eating alert!) and when I came back, I discovered that one of the vendors had given the girl a piece of cardboard to put in between herself and the armrest. With this cardboard in place, I discovered that I could not fit in the seat. It was impossible. I asked her to remove the cardboard. She said no. I got a security guard. He looked at the situation and said he couldn’t do anything, the cardboard was on her side of the seat only, so she was entitled to have it there if she wished.
I left in tears.
Having said that, I would NEVER have casual sex myself. I have an amazing girlfriend and really don't want to sleep with others. But before I got her and was single, I never wanted casual sex. When I was single, all I wanted was having a nice girlfriend to have a monogamous relationship with. I don't need porn, I don't need prostitutes or casual hookups, I just need my girlfriend for all my sexual needs.
I have to disagree with that. The ultimate form of intimacy...would be feeling completely connected and at ease when being with some particular person and longing for them when they're not present (I'm not good at explaining). You can have sex with almost anyone. You cannot have a really beautiful and special bond with just anyone. I do not think many people are in this kind of relationship.
Not every couple even likes sex.
...but with girls..idk. I'm exploring myself. i'd like again, a relationship, or a close bond maybe. idk...still young.
You ever watch sitcoms? There was an episode of Seinfeld where Jerry tries to pursue a casual relationship with a girl and sets up a long list of rules in order to make it simpler. This is based on a true story, by the way. It didn't work, and it made for a hilarious episode.
Thanks for the fave BTW
No problem. :3